Macho, macho man.

I get really annoyed when people try to force their ideals and beliefs onto others. Everyone is entitled to think what they want to. There's not one table of contents for all of us to look at and live our lives by. You don't have to think or accept what others do, but don't sit and push your opinions on somebody else.

I hate when straight guys feel it necessary to say anything derogatory about gay people. Now, I'm a performer and I study musical theatre, so I happen to have a lot of close friends who are gay. I also consider myself a fairly liberal person, but I was raised a Christian girl, and personally I think that people should be able to love whomever they want to. To me, being a Christian is about living a life of faith & love. And nobody should be deprived of loving someone. There, that's my soapbox.

I was eating lunch with a guy a couple of days ago and I had been looking forward to this moment for a while. Mainly because I think he's adorable in every way, shape and form. We were just talking about the events of the weekend (mainly the formal mentioned in my previous post) and stuff that was going on in our lives, and all of a sudden he brings up the topic of homosexuality. He knows I have friends that are gay, and up until this point, I thought he did too. He proceeds to tell me that he thinks being gay is "just a trend" and that "people are doing it just to do it". I'm sorry.....what? I was thrown for a loop when this came up and just tried to steer the conversation in another direction. He wasn't having it. He then decided to bring up the "GayMU" campaign that my school (JMU) has. It's basically a week-long event that allows the students to support gay rights. He said that it was embarassing that our school allowed something like this to happen and that it was a disgrace to the name of the university. My blood started to boil at this point, but I didn't want to cause a scene in the middle of this dining facility.

I tried to fish around and see what he was getting at. He was just adamant about discussing this topic. And granted, this guy is pretty conservative, but that doesn't give you the right to judge and put down people that you don't even know. And it's not necessarily just conservative guys. So many males that I know are terribly afraid that they'll make one move and people will assume that they're gay. It's very annoying. Guys don't understand that supporting gay rights doesn't make you gay. A straight guy who stands up for his friends is much more admirable and attractive compared to someone who acts completely homophobic. Those are the ones we question.

Anyway, this lunch date ended abruptly when I realized we had a seriously problem on our hands. I don't know if I could ever date someone like that. I have too many people that I care about that would be affected by that. I would never want to be put in a situation where I would have to choose between friends or a significant other, and if I was, obviously my friends would come first.