Ok, so I have had a lack of blog topics lately, but this one has been boiling in me for quite some time now.
I'm going to discuss two things on my mind.
Number one: most girls who go to JMU are screwed out of having a successful relationship anytime before their mid-20's. Why? Because the ratio is 70-30 female to male. In this environment, the guys can take their pick. There are just about 3 girls for every guy and if the guy wants to sit back and let all of the girls flock, he can. Girls become programmed to throw themselves at guys in order to get one ounce of attention. Why do we have to do all of the work? We shouldn't have to. You can get your lazy ass out of the corner of the room and you can make the first effort. And then the girls who are intelligent enough to realize what's going on in this sort of environment get nothing. We get the shaft. Sorry that I recognize the games you're playing with all of the stupid biddies around you. Screwed.
So then when girls leave JMU, they actually meet some normal guys who are still hanging on to chivalry. JMU girls then throw themselves at these guys (because it's what they think is routine), and these guys get scared and freaked out because the girl is "coming on too strong". Screwed again. Moral of the story: if you're trying to date exclusively in college, go somewhere else.
Alright my next issue: I myself am not a fantastic communicator. But I've worked my whole life on figuring out ways to express myself, so that people don't misunderstand what I do and say. I'm currently very frustrated with guys around me not knowing how to communicate properly. On one hand, I've got someone who constantly talks about himself and nothing else. Quite frankly, I don't care what you had for breakfast, lunch & dinner. I don't care that your sister complains about her job all of the time, and I certainly don't care that your adolescent girlfriend lives in a dorm. I don't care.
On the other hand, I have someone who literally says nothing. At all. Ever. Someone who I actually really enjoy spending time with. Someone who I want to get to know more. What are we supposed to do, read your mind? I mean honestly. Do you get annoyed by people trying to figure out what's going on in that brain of yours? Or does that amuse you? Are you glad we're even friends? Do you enjoy making out with slutty girls with greasy hair? Sitting around doing drugs....is that ALL YOU EVER DO? Seriously, if I could yell a string of things at you, it would be that. A simple response in the form of a full sentence every now and then would be fantastic.
Saturday, May 8, 2010
Friday, April 2, 2010
Macho, macho man.
I get really annoyed when people try to force their ideals and beliefs onto others. Everyone is entitled to think what they want to. There's not one table of contents for all of us to look at and live our lives by. You don't have to think or accept what others do, but don't sit and push your opinions on somebody else.
I hate when straight guys feel it necessary to say anything derogatory about gay people. Now, I'm a performer and I study musical theatre, so I happen to have a lot of close friends who are gay. I also consider myself a fairly liberal person, but I was raised a Christian girl, and personally I think that people should be able to love whomever they want to. To me, being a Christian is about living a life of faith & love. And nobody should be deprived of loving someone. There, that's my soapbox.
I was eating lunch with a guy a couple of days ago and I had been looking forward to this moment for a while. Mainly because I think he's adorable in every way, shape and form. We were just talking about the events of the weekend (mainly the formal mentioned in my previous post) and stuff that was going on in our lives, and all of a sudden he brings up the topic of homosexuality. He knows I have friends that are gay, and up until this point, I thought he did too. He proceeds to tell me that he thinks being gay is "just a trend" and that "people are doing it just to do it". I'm sorry.....what? I was thrown for a loop when this came up and just tried to steer the conversation in another direction. He wasn't having it. He then decided to bring up the "GayMU" campaign that my school (JMU) has. It's basically a week-long event that allows the students to support gay rights. He said that it was embarassing that our school allowed something like this to happen and that it was a disgrace to the name of the university. My blood started to boil at this point, but I didn't want to cause a scene in the middle of this dining facility.
I tried to fish around and see what he was getting at. He was just adamant about discussing this topic. And granted, this guy is pretty conservative, but that doesn't give you the right to judge and put down people that you don't even know. And it's not necessarily just conservative guys. So many males that I know are terribly afraid that they'll make one move and people will assume that they're gay. It's very annoying. Guys don't understand that supporting gay rights doesn't make you gay. A straight guy who stands up for his friends is much more admirable and attractive compared to someone who acts completely homophobic. Those are the ones we question.
Anyway, this lunch date ended abruptly when I realized we had a seriously problem on our hands. I don't know if I could ever date someone like that. I have too many people that I care about that would be affected by that. I would never want to be put in a situation where I would have to choose between friends or a significant other, and if I was, obviously my friends would come first.
I hate when straight guys feel it necessary to say anything derogatory about gay people. Now, I'm a performer and I study musical theatre, so I happen to have a lot of close friends who are gay. I also consider myself a fairly liberal person, but I was raised a Christian girl, and personally I think that people should be able to love whomever they want to. To me, being a Christian is about living a life of faith & love. And nobody should be deprived of loving someone. There, that's my soapbox.
I was eating lunch with a guy a couple of days ago and I had been looking forward to this moment for a while. Mainly because I think he's adorable in every way, shape and form. We were just talking about the events of the weekend (mainly the formal mentioned in my previous post) and stuff that was going on in our lives, and all of a sudden he brings up the topic of homosexuality. He knows I have friends that are gay, and up until this point, I thought he did too. He proceeds to tell me that he thinks being gay is "just a trend" and that "people are doing it just to do it". I'm sorry.....what? I was thrown for a loop when this came up and just tried to steer the conversation in another direction. He wasn't having it. He then decided to bring up the "GayMU" campaign that my school (JMU) has. It's basically a week-long event that allows the students to support gay rights. He said that it was embarassing that our school allowed something like this to happen and that it was a disgrace to the name of the university. My blood started to boil at this point, but I didn't want to cause a scene in the middle of this dining facility.
I tried to fish around and see what he was getting at. He was just adamant about discussing this topic. And granted, this guy is pretty conservative, but that doesn't give you the right to judge and put down people that you don't even know. And it's not necessarily just conservative guys. So many males that I know are terribly afraid that they'll make one move and people will assume that they're gay. It's very annoying. Guys don't understand that supporting gay rights doesn't make you gay. A straight guy who stands up for his friends is much more admirable and attractive compared to someone who acts completely homophobic. Those are the ones we question.
Anyway, this lunch date ended abruptly when I realized we had a seriously problem on our hands. I don't know if I could ever date someone like that. I have too many people that I care about that would be affected by that. I would never want to be put in a situation where I would have to choose between friends or a significant other, and if I was, obviously my friends would come first.
Monday, March 22, 2010
"I like you more than 50% of the time..."
This post is about to have a lot of ranting and raving. The quote will come in later.
This past weekend, my collegiate social circle held it's annual spring semiformal. It's just like any sort of date function where each person takes a date, color coordinates dresses and ties, and may or may not end up flat on the floor or face down in the toilet by 10pm. Usually, I love these kinds of things. But this year, I became annoyed as the night went on, and I quickly watched all of my girlfriends end up alone for the evening.
Now yes, I do believe that Disney has programmed all of our lost souls into thinking there could potentially be a prince charming out there for the Cinderella in all of us. And sadly life isn't like that. But, there's no reason that a boy can't be a gentleman when he's someone's date.
But for those of us who wander around aimlessly for hours wondering where our dates are, I stand on my soap box:
It's not hard to be a good date. All you have to do is just be on time, be polite and don't lay your lips on another girl. And maybe go a little out of your way to tell your date she looks nice or offer to get her a drink.; maybe even offer up your jacket if she's cold on the walk home. IT'S NOT HARD. I know that there are guys out there that would do these things without question, they just aren't around me.
So to give you a glimpse of what happened that night:
- One friend of mine had to meet her date at the actual semiformal to find out that he'd been there for about 30 minutes and she had no idea. They saw eachother once or twice the entire night before he went to makeout with another girl. He was completely sober. He texted her at the end of the night to say he was leaving.
- One friend of mine brought a guy she likes a lot, and he's been stringing her along for quite sometime. He was fairly decent acting all night long, but at some point they got to talking about this on and off weird relationship they have. His winning one-liner was "I like you more than 50% of the time. I'm working on trying to like you all of the time."
- One guy told his date 20 minutes before they were supposed to go to dinner that he was two hours out of town. When he got there, he probably spoke a total of 8 words to her all night, and that was at the pregame. At the actual event, she saw him maybe three times total, even though she searched around for him for a good while. They went back to a house with a group of friends and instead of hanging out and getting their total number of words past 8, he stayed on the front porch and smoked a cigarette.
I stood with three of my friends at the top of a staircase waiting for the bathroom, and as we started to talk, we all realized that we walked through the door with our color coordinated male counterparts, but at that moment, were standing there, the four of us, dateless.
Now guys, I'm not saying that you have to be at our side all night long. That would be annoying. But just because you weren't raised south of the Mason-Dixon line doesn't mean that you can go off making out with other people. It would be nice to know that we're being looked out for, we won't be left in the dust, and that maybe you're glad you accompanied us in something more than just an awkward group picture.
I'm not saying that I don't like all of these guys that are my friends, but I'd almost rather you just not ask me or say no if I'm going to be left hanging like that. The past two years of college, I took one of my best friends to my sorority semiformal. And even though the first time he got me kicked out and the second time he stole a truck load of food from the hotel kitchen, I still had an unbelievably good time.
This past weekend, my collegiate social circle held it's annual spring semiformal. It's just like any sort of date function where each person takes a date, color coordinates dresses and ties, and may or may not end up flat on the floor or face down in the toilet by 10pm. Usually, I love these kinds of things. But this year, I became annoyed as the night went on, and I quickly watched all of my girlfriends end up alone for the evening.
Now yes, I do believe that Disney has programmed all of our lost souls into thinking there could potentially be a prince charming out there for the Cinderella in all of us. And sadly life isn't like that. But, there's no reason that a boy can't be a gentleman when he's someone's date.
But for those of us who wander around aimlessly for hours wondering where our dates are, I stand on my soap box:
It's not hard to be a good date. All you have to do is just be on time, be polite and don't lay your lips on another girl. And maybe go a little out of your way to tell your date she looks nice or offer to get her a drink.; maybe even offer up your jacket if she's cold on the walk home. IT'S NOT HARD. I know that there are guys out there that would do these things without question, they just aren't around me.
So to give you a glimpse of what happened that night:
- One friend of mine had to meet her date at the actual semiformal to find out that he'd been there for about 30 minutes and she had no idea. They saw eachother once or twice the entire night before he went to makeout with another girl. He was completely sober. He texted her at the end of the night to say he was leaving.
- One friend of mine brought a guy she likes a lot, and he's been stringing her along for quite sometime. He was fairly decent acting all night long, but at some point they got to talking about this on and off weird relationship they have. His winning one-liner was "I like you more than 50% of the time. I'm working on trying to like you all of the time."
- One guy told his date 20 minutes before they were supposed to go to dinner that he was two hours out of town. When he got there, he probably spoke a total of 8 words to her all night, and that was at the pregame. At the actual event, she saw him maybe three times total, even though she searched around for him for a good while. They went back to a house with a group of friends and instead of hanging out and getting their total number of words past 8, he stayed on the front porch and smoked a cigarette.
I stood with three of my friends at the top of a staircase waiting for the bathroom, and as we started to talk, we all realized that we walked through the door with our color coordinated male counterparts, but at that moment, were standing there, the four of us, dateless.
Now guys, I'm not saying that you have to be at our side all night long. That would be annoying. But just because you weren't raised south of the Mason-Dixon line doesn't mean that you can go off making out with other people. It would be nice to know that we're being looked out for, we won't be left in the dust, and that maybe you're glad you accompanied us in something more than just an awkward group picture.
I'm not saying that I don't like all of these guys that are my friends, but I'd almost rather you just not ask me or say no if I'm going to be left hanging like that. The past two years of college, I took one of my best friends to my sorority semiformal. And even though the first time he got me kicked out and the second time he stole a truck load of food from the hotel kitchen, I still had an unbelievably good time.
Monday, March 15, 2010
Concessions
Tonight I went to see Remember Me with some friends. Side note: the movie is awkward practically the entire time, but R.Patt and the end make it worth the $9.50.
Anyway, we buy our tickets and head to the concessions. My two friends take a longer than normal time to decide what they want, making the awkward 20-something that's running the register feel even more uncomfortable than he already was.
I knew I wanted my cinema staple of Sour Patch Kids, so I asked for a bag. He took this as an invitation to tell me his entire daily schedule. He had been working since 3pm and was closing at 1am. As I'm trying to act like I'm listening while grabbing my candy and putting my change away, my stupid response is "1am? Who sees a movie at 1am?" Instead of laughing, he continues to tell me how that was nothing. He has to be there until the last person leaves and then he has to wake up at 8am. Why? To go to a rock concert. His friend gets not just 10 free tickets, but 10 backstage passes to some supposed music festivals every month. And they're driving to one tomorrow....somewhere that involves getting up at 8am. He then proceeded to list every band that he would be seeing (and I guess meeting) this year.
I just want some candy. That's all. I was just trying to hurry along my friends who couldn't decide what they wanted. Instead, I get an earful from a guy who clearly hasn't seen a dentist since 2001, and could check the "A Little Extra for You to Hold On to" body type box on eHarmony.com. I would bet 100% that he was a local to Harrisonburg, Virginia. And that is saying something.
Why is this the type of man that I attract? Hm?
I was so thrilled to see that when the movie was over, he was still behind the register. His last words to us for the evening? "It's midnight...one hour before I get off work..."
Anyway, we buy our tickets and head to the concessions. My two friends take a longer than normal time to decide what they want, making the awkward 20-something that's running the register feel even more uncomfortable than he already was.
I knew I wanted my cinema staple of Sour Patch Kids, so I asked for a bag. He took this as an invitation to tell me his entire daily schedule. He had been working since 3pm and was closing at 1am. As I'm trying to act like I'm listening while grabbing my candy and putting my change away, my stupid response is "1am? Who sees a movie at 1am?" Instead of laughing, he continues to tell me how that was nothing. He has to be there until the last person leaves and then he has to wake up at 8am. Why? To go to a rock concert. His friend gets not just 10 free tickets, but 10 backstage passes to some supposed music festivals every month. And they're driving to one tomorrow....somewhere that involves getting up at 8am. He then proceeded to list every band that he would be seeing (and I guess meeting) this year.
I just want some candy. That's all. I was just trying to hurry along my friends who couldn't decide what they wanted. Instead, I get an earful from a guy who clearly hasn't seen a dentist since 2001, and could check the "A Little Extra for You to Hold On to" body type box on eHarmony.com. I would bet 100% that he was a local to Harrisonburg, Virginia. And that is saying something.
Why is this the type of man that I attract? Hm?
I was so thrilled to see that when the movie was over, he was still behind the register. His last words to us for the evening? "It's midnight...one hour before I get off work..."
Saturday, March 6, 2010
"Is that a new shirt? It makes you look better..."
My friends and I have lately been discussing the fact that we all repeatedly "date down". All of my friends are without a doubt at least 9/10's, if not perfect catches: gorgeous, talented, intelligent, charming, etc. I don't know if it's the pool of men we're constantly surrounded with, or if it's the fact that we've been stuck at a school where the female to male ratio is 70/30 for so long that we've all grown permanent beer goggles. We constantly finding ourselves shlepping around with 5's, 6's and the occasional 4 or 7. It's truly because in the collegiate bubble in which we are currently trapped, there aren't 10's on every street corner. And some of us get tired of hunting.
Anyway, I recently heard this scenario between my good friend and her boyfriend. Now don't get me wrong, he's a great guy and we all love him, but at first sight, you'd never match up the two. My friend was wearing a shirt she hadn't in a long time. Her boyfriend asks "Is that a new shirt?" and she replies "No...I just haven't worn it because it's got short sleeves, and it's cold outside". His response? "Oh...well, it makes you look better."
Excuse me? Better than what? Better than your other girlfriend? Better than you? Because that's not hard. I hope what he meant was 'better' as in an 11 out of 10, instead of a 10 out of 10.
What's wrong with just saying, "you look nice" or "I like that shirt"? Come on, guys. You have to think these things through. If you're gonna say 'better', it better be before something like 'than Megan Fox'.
Anyway, I recently heard this scenario between my good friend and her boyfriend. Now don't get me wrong, he's a great guy and we all love him, but at first sight, you'd never match up the two. My friend was wearing a shirt she hadn't in a long time. Her boyfriend asks "Is that a new shirt?" and she replies "No...I just haven't worn it because it's got short sleeves, and it's cold outside". His response? "Oh...well, it makes you look better."
Excuse me? Better than what? Better than your other girlfriend? Better than you? Because that's not hard. I hope what he meant was 'better' as in an 11 out of 10, instead of a 10 out of 10.
What's wrong with just saying, "you look nice" or "I like that shirt"? Come on, guys. You have to think these things through. If you're gonna say 'better', it better be before something like 'than Megan Fox'.
Sunday, February 28, 2010
"This one time..."
I love when people tell funny stories. I don't love when I meet a guy and every single one of his stories starts with "this one time, when I was drunk..."
I met a guy this past weekend at a bar, and even though I automatically found him a little creepy from first glance, my judgements progressively got worse as he continued to speak in the most unintelligent fashion I've ever encountered. He proceeded to tell me about the time he got really drunk at a race (strike one) and broke a vending machine because it stole his money (strike two). After the murder of the vending machine, he tried to steal a four-wheeler, not knowing that it's owner was right behind him when he tried to drive off on it (strike 3).
When I was obviously uninterested, he decided the best solution was to get off of his seat and stand terribly close to me. He then got in a racial argument with his friend, dropping the n-bomb left and right.
Also that same evening, I encountered a 65-year sugar daddy bumpin & grindin with his three 26-year old sugar mamas (a brunette, a blonde & a black girl).
I left the bar that night thinking, what just happened?
I met a guy this past weekend at a bar, and even though I automatically found him a little creepy from first glance, my judgements progressively got worse as he continued to speak in the most unintelligent fashion I've ever encountered. He proceeded to tell me about the time he got really drunk at a race (strike one) and broke a vending machine because it stole his money (strike two). After the murder of the vending machine, he tried to steal a four-wheeler, not knowing that it's owner was right behind him when he tried to drive off on it (strike 3).
When I was obviously uninterested, he decided the best solution was to get off of his seat and stand terribly close to me. He then got in a racial argument with his friend, dropping the n-bomb left and right.
Also that same evening, I encountered a 65-year sugar daddy bumpin & grindin with his three 26-year old sugar mamas (a brunette, a blonde & a black girl).
I left the bar that night thinking, what just happened?
"If I could find a girl who was exactly like you...."
"...but not you, I'd be all over her". Ah, what a punchline.
Even if you are just friends, that's not at all what a girl wants to hear. It leads you into the "well why not me? what's wrong with me?" conversation that probably should be avoided.
Even if you are just friends, that's not at all what a girl wants to hear. It leads you into the "well why not me? what's wrong with me?" conversation that probably should be avoided.
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